Gambler's Black Hole Theory

Dry logicUnderstand that it can be used to make the person you like like youAmbitious or evil-minded peopleYou can even use it to control people's heartsCheating money and sexEven founded a cultSo that digital currency contract transactionsIt's like a black holeEven if you just tentatively get closerHe will also involuntarily sink deeper and deeper, accelerating his fall.This concept is called the "Gambler's Black Hole."Try to think back: Have you ever played Tencent’s krypton gold game?Are you constantly investing money in order to get a prop?Did you ever play tossing hoops on the roadside when you were a kid?To catch a prizeBut invested far more money than the prize is worth?Have you ever been to a casino, or participated in gambling, card games, football lottery, or welfare lottery? Or the simplestHave you ever encountered a mobile phone game that you knew was stupid?But once it startsYou just have to persevere to pass it.Spending a lot of time on this?Have you ever met someone who experienced phone scams?As long as he invested the first amount, the scammer asked him to invest the second amount, and he did so. Even if a friend next to him tried to persuade him, he still persisted. Why? In fact, it's not that he hasn't thought about the possibility that he has been deceived, but he doesn't dare to face the truth. Faced with the truth that his previous investment is meaningless and the results he expected will never happen, in order to escape, He kept anesthetizing himself, sinking deeper and deeper into the trap.Someone may want to say that what you want to say is the Franklin effect and sunk costs. It is true that the Franklin effect and the sunk cost theory involve the same content, but they only explain the surface without digging deeper. The gambler's black hole theory is more direct to the essence. What is the essence? Let’s dig deeper next.It can be said that most gamblers who are addicted to gambling just gamble a little for fun at the beginning. They invest a little to enjoy themselves and quit when they get good. No gambler says from the beginning that I am just aiming to get rich overnight and become a successful person in life. The winner goes. However, some people with poor self-control are unwilling to accept the fact that they are losing money. They want to win even a little. Once they have this mentality, they fall into the black hole of gamblers. They keep investing, but the more they invest, the more they lose. The more you lose, the more you are unwilling to face the reality of sunk costs, and the more you become obsessed with the impossible expectations, so you invest more, and this vicious cycle cannot extricate itself.There are some people in the world who use the gambler's black hole to control people's hearts: for example, some cult founders use the gambler's black hole. Their routines are also very simple. They set up a gentle gradient of dedication requirements. As long as the believers step into that A simple first step, in order to get feedback from the leader, you will naturally take the second step. The more you give, the more you hope to get feedback from it, so you will be more loyal and obey the leader's words; some entrepreneurs, through painting The big pie is used to guide employees to continue to give, and it is also a black hole for gamblers; you must have seen this kind of news, a scumbag defrauded several women at the same time, why did those women willingly give money? Because they also fell into the black hole of gamblers and refused to face the fact that they fell in love with a liar.We are often confident that we can see through the trap. However, the reason why the gambler's black hole is a black hole is because even if you take just one step closer, you will fall into its gravity. What makes you fall into it is not the trap itself, but your own continuous weaving. The real black hole is not the object that traps you, but the weakness of your human heart.Back to the topic, what is the essence of liking someone?In fact, all relationships between people are essentially relationships of seeking feedback from each other - and when you like someone, you essentially hope to get feedback from that person, so why would you want to get feedback from that person? It's because you have given something, which may be emotional or material. In short, because you have given something, you feel that he should give you feedback.At this time, someone will jump out and say: "No! I like her because she is beautiful (he is handsome), and I fell in love with her (him) at first sight!"Is it really?Think about it carefully, if you were a man, would you really like Zhao Liying, Yang Ying, or Audrey Hepburn? If you were a woman, would you really fall in love with Daniel Wu or Keanu Reeves? Of course, you will say that they are perfect lovers and even have sexual fantasies about them. However, even if they appear in front of you now, you may be surprised and feel that they are How come (they) look so perfect, but do you feel like you are "stuck"? Will you be in pain because of his or her rejection? You know clearly that these celebrities are scorning the person who "trapped" you in every aspect, but they never let you "trap". Why?So obviously we can draw a conclusion: the person who makes you like and fall into you is not because of how good he or she is, but because of external factors. What are these external factors?If you are a man, then I can give you a better example: Imagine that one day you see a super beautiful woman on the road, and you muster up the courage to strike up a conversation and ask for her contact information, but the other person treats you coldly and even calls you " "Go away", will you get into trouble because of this? Will you stay up all night without thinking about food and tea? No, you will find this a very interesting experience, and you will not get stuck in it, because the other party gave up your idea from the beginning, and you determined from the beginning that you would not get any feedback from her. So when will you fall in? It’s when you start to feel that the other party may respond to your efforts. What was your initial effort? Maybe it was the courage to strike up a conversation and she responded to you, maybe it was a cup of milk tea for someone you already knew, maybe it was an escort, a companionship, etc., or maybe it was just an eye contact on the road, and you began to be confused. Does the other person feel the same heartbeat as you? This is the initial contribution. Although you can't say you like it yet, you have taken the first step into the gambler's black hole, and you are not far from "death".The reason why you won’t have a gambler’s black hole towards those celebrities, or those super beauties who poured cold water on you from the beginning, is because you are sure from the beginning that you will not get any feedback from them, and naturally there will be no second thoughts. step. The people who really create a gambler's black hole in you are those who make you pay step by step and make you feel that she will definitely have feedback, but she may not really have feedback, or the feedback cannot Meet your expectations, but because of your early efforts, you want an answer more and more.If you think about it carefully, the advantages of the person you like are not the real reasons for attracting you. A woman said she liked that man because he was rich, so why didn’t she like Jack Ma? It's because Ma Yun is far away from her, why "like" won't occur when being far away? It's because she knows that being far away prevents feedback from happening, so what she likes must be the people close to her, and only close people can generate feedback.Think about it, is the person in the past who kept you up all night and stopped thinking about food and drinks really better than others?Why do most girls never forget the man who gave them their first time? How good is that guy really? It's because they gave the most precious thing, the "first time".Therefore, liking someone is essentially a gambler's black hole; even if you have established a relationship, the gambler's black hole is still in effect - not because one party loves the other more and therefore pays more, but because one party pays more and therefore loves more the other side.——This is the essence of "like". The essence is that you don't get the expected feedback after giving, or the feedback does not meet expectations. In order to "recover the money", you choose to pay further, and paying further makes you more urgent. eager for feedback.Once you understand the mystery of the gambler's black hole, the trick to make a person like you becomes very simple (as long as you are not crooked or too poor), find a way to make him or her take the first step, not immediately Give feedback and reassure him or her that there will be greater feedback in the future.At this time, some people will simply and crudely think that the first step is to directly ask the other party to help you. After all, it is mentioned in the Franklin Effect that the way to make someone become your friend is to ask him to help you.But if you really do this, you may get the opposite effect and push the other party further away. Imagine that your boss asks you to help him clean up after get off work. Would you like this boss? Don't you get bored?If you are a man and a woman suddenly asks you to help move things on the road, and you agree out of politeness, will you start to have a crush on that woman because of this? (Of course, super beauties are a different matter)Therefore, creating a gambler's black hole is a rather subtle process, and it is not a simple matter of asking the other party to help you. So what is the correct approach?1. According to Freud’s theory of subconsciousness and psychoanalysis, a person’s feeling of “liking” for another person is mainly due to the subconscious mind rather than conscious awareness. You may think on a conscious level that this person is a good person and someone suitable for you to get along with, but just in this way you will never be able to have the strong urge to get him or see him, and you will never be able to see him or her. The feeling of frustration is the feeling of "liking", and this is only a subconscious mechanism. What triggers this mechanism is the desire for a dopamine state.2. Dopamine is the essence of pleasure experienced by individuals, but what drives people to pursue dopamine is not pleasure, but "thirst", which is the desire for dopamine in a normal state or a negative dopamine state. Therefore, the feeling you feel when you fall in love with someone is not actually a feeling of happiness, but a feeling of "thirst". This is why love is said to be as sweet as cloves and as bitter as black vinegar. It can even be said that it is bitter most of the time. It is the painful feeling of unsatisfied desire. Once it is satisfied, a large amount of dopamine will be obtained, so it will be even more intense in the future. Longing is even more painful. This is how you sink deeper and deeper step by step, unable to extricate yourself.Therefore, if you want a person to fall in love with you, the key is not to create happiness, but to create thirst; not to create a sense of satisfaction, but to create a sense of need; not to make him gain, but to make him lose.In other words, making the other person like you is actually the process of making the other person create a gambler's black hole.

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